MOMMYHOOD: Can we really "have it all?"

I have not had a blog post in a bit because of the shear high-pitch busyness my life has suddenly taken in the past week! I had two big presentations, I volunteered to be on our school's very large festival fundraiser this week (meaning many hours are being spent doing things for them), I also need to man the festival, and I entered the pie baking contest to help raise money. I also have agreed to be a co-leader for my daughter's girl scout troop this year. Add the typical busy week to this mix and I am wondering if it is really possible to "do it all". As I was watering my very droopy garden running to work, I was so disheartened. I think in my college years and my mid twenties, the women's movement wove dreams of "bringing home the bacon, frying it up in a pan, and never letting you forget you're the man....." This is what I expected I could do, in heels, looking fabulous with an awesome sex life and perfect children to boot.

Reality is not so rosy. And I am frustrated with myself that I never learn. It is the sense of always having to do every thing for everyone. I typically do it, too, which is what this blog is about. I have found ways to do a lot, and I share them with all of you. But sometimes, I need to learn to say NO. And sometimes it takes a husband to talk some sense into you! 

For instance, I had a slew of posters to print out for said fundraiser, and a girl scout meeting tonight, and a two hour client presentation this afternoon I needed my lunch hour to prepare for. So I either bowed out of girls scouts and focused on posters, or head back to the office after putting our daughter to bed to finish the posters so I could attend girls scouts. I actually was going to do the latter to not let anyone down. My husband convinced me to bow out of girls scouts this once. When I did, I felt incredibly guilty, but after realizing that the other leaders were not going to be angry with me, I felt relieved-overjoyed, even.

So the moral of this post is, even though we can talk about a lot of tips and advice about cooking, gardening, career, etc. Sometimes the best way to keep some semblance of balance in your life is to just say "No". Sometimes, you have to admit, "I just can't do it, something has to give, and it better not be my sanity".


  1. The best thing about it is some day one of the other leaders is not going to be able to do it all and you will be there to say - no worries.

    I actually sent out birthday invitations out to a bunch of kids without putting my son's name on them. So no one knew whose birthday party it was. Nice. Such a flake!! BUT a few weeks later my friend did the exact same thing.

    Sometimes I forget we are all in the same boat!

  2. Thanks Malvika! Very true-in fact, last week my co-leader told me she couldn't make it last minute because her daughter had her first volleyball game of the season that night-and I handled the troop on my own. 18 girls-phew! I needed a martini after, but I did it. You're right, its a sisterhood -it does takes a village, doesn't it?


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